Wilhelmina de Boer Dekker, Psychologist, Counselor/ Coach/ Psychotherapist/Supervisor, and Reiki Master Teacher.
I was born and raised in The Netherlands. For more than 30 years I traveled, living in different countries, following my husband’s job, and raising my 2 sons. Since 2003 we are living on the beautiful island of Cyprus. In all those years I was (and still am) experiencing different cultures and learning about people’s way of life, how they follow up with the way they are brought up, about the ability they have to change their life’s and how stuck we all can be as we stubborn follow up with just that what we always have been doing.
In my work as a counselor and therapist, I feel very fortunate to guide people in their process to find their own answers and solutions so they can feel better, stronger, and more in balance. It is my belief that we all have our own importance and that we are responsible for the life we live to find happiness and fulfillment. It is my honest experience that people all over the world have no ‘problems’ but are able to encounter every time new ‘opportunities’ and they sometimes simply need to be reminded of their own unlimited potential, using it to find their own unique creative solutions to their life’s challenges.
I feel grateful for being part of the process of all of those who are willing to start their search for their own truth and faithfully developing their talents and skills, longing to empower their lives through understanding and acceptance of self.
I use many different techniques making my sessions tailor-made for everyone who dares to approach life differently. Together we explore the challenges, dust off the talents you have so you may become aware of your creativity and strength. When you start recognizing that only your fear shaped in the past and lived in the now keeps you from your own power, you will understand that becoming conscious of your own thoughts and behavior will let you start changing your life, embracing it, being able to respond powerful, being in control. When we start recognizing that there are no victims in this world as long as we stay students of life and know that we are masters of our mind we become powerful Creators of the reality we live.
Examples of workshops I made: the Identity Code; Breaking patterns; the Secret explained; What to do by Burn Out; The Connection; and The Family affairs.
Workshops I made in cooperation with Prof. A. Droussiotis : The perfect Parent, Methods of Stress reduction, Effective Leadership, Walking the Path of effortless performance.
I am the author of Pause for thoughts ISBN 9781480210967 / The Guide to your Guru inside ISBN 9781480199859/ From reality into truth ISBN 9781481156004 9, only so far in Dutch) Living Loving Life ISBN 798525086562, Chloe meets Angel Wing and Whisper Wind ISBN 9798525502543 and other manuals and ebooks.
My acquaintance with Wil as a counselor and with the group, in which I began to practice Reiki took place over 15 years ago and since then life has changed a lot. The practice of Reiki was very interesting and awakening experience, truly healing for gaining the wholeness of oneself. At that time my life, outwardly successful and prosperous, did not bring me much inner satisfaction or peace of mind, I was constantly experiencing internal pressure up to physical discomfort as if my heart was squeezed in a vice. Relationships with family members, with friends, colleagues, my intellectual pursuits, hobbies – everything was there, but something was still missing. At the therapy sessions with Wil, I finally met a wise, beautiful woman with a very big heart and a real professional. In her presence, in the atmosphere she created, it was easy for me to talk, sometimes up to tears as she was listening sincerely. She never gave assessments to my situations and problems, did not offer ready-made solutions, but simply was there, carefully guiding and helping me to do the work I had to do by myself especially to get rid of a fear to live life the way I wanted. After that there was a time when I revealed my strength and started learning to manage it, I still do J. Gradually my life stopped running away over the years, time slowed down and everything acquired a new quality, i.e. relationships, surroundings, and even places. Thanks to therapy with Wil and Reiki practicing my heart is now free, the pain is gone and I learned to breathe with full lungs freely. Instead of feeling constricted, the heart is now simply open and calm, or some warm waves of wonderful energy can flow through it. It sounds artistic and romantic, but in fact, it is a completely physical sensation, now familiar and normal for the new me. I now live every day with gratitude of the heart and of course consider meeting Will was a life-changing experience for me, as she is very special and always there for those, who is ready for change, for growth, and willing to learn other spectrums of Life and to go deeper into the beauty and meaning of it.
Love and Light,
Iryna L. (Cyprus and Kiev)
“It is my pleasure to write about Wil. She is so full of positive energy and warmth that you feel comfortable from the first second you meet. She has a smile that touches your soul and her voice helps bring out what you wish to discuss. I’ve had many wonderful meetings with Wil. She will never say no and always makes ways to help me. Either by a one on one meeting or a quick text or an email. The advice she gives and her way of thinking help you see the issues in a different light. Thank you, Wil.
S.B Limassol, Cyprus.”
Working with Wil has been a journey that felt so effortless and so meaningful even at the darkest of hours. The experience of having counseling with Wil is one that cannot simply be described in words, as it is so heartfelt and so nourishing for the soul that the limitations of our vocabulary don’t suffice to encapsulate the magnitude of the experience. Wil is a beacon of light in my life and she is helping me navigate several aspects of it in a more holistic end-rounded way whereby I get to recognize myself through the journey as the initiator and catalyst for my own balance and path towards happiness. Her guidance and teachings become daily lessons I try and evoke and apply and my gratitude to have such a teacher in life is immeasurable. Tefkros, London.
A GOOD TEACHER IS A GREAT BLESSINg·
The times I’ve opened this piece of document and the times I’ve thought of it reached a ridiculous amount and then I remembered her words, one of the first she taught me, or perhaps best to use the term, reminded me of, as our Higher Self always knows – “there is nothing you can do or say that is wrong as there is no right or wrong…so long as your intentions behind it are good and pure.” (simultaneously I was also reminded that even a “bad” intention or trait could never be “bad” as it provided the underlying base or a strong basis of a lesson for an understanding of its extreme opposite, as we say the other side of the coin but that’s not for now). So here it is, with the right or wrong words, a long overdue dedication stemming from my best and purest of intentions, offered with love and decorated with a big bow of eternal gratitude to the person who was, is and always will be my brightest torch in my path of wisdom and enlightenment – Wilhelmina (Wil) De Boer Dekker.
My search for self-evolvement started from a young age rooted at a deep conviction that the part of the human that feels and experiences countless emotions and primarily boundless love, compassion and ultimately connection with all, does not end and cannot end at the end of the physical functioning of the body. I was always brought to the same dead-end type of questioning “where does the thing that loves, cares, feels, hurts, shares, fears, respects…the thing that developed such meanings in so many languages and manners and understood them and put them in practice in the first place, go at the time when something causes the body to cease to function or exist?” This question repeated itself for years, not just in my brain but in my whole entire system of existence and I was often caught by sincere surprise to discover that for some others it wasn’t even a matter to cross the mind, let alone be so skeptical over.
Sooner than later the questioning came to an end; I felt persuaded that there’s something there beyond our physical body, a certain inexplicable exhilarating intangible magic peeping from behind our very existence in this planet, underlying the very circle of life, the whole concept of us humans, hidden in the deep complexity of sentiments shared between us but also in the things we take heavily for granted like our breath, the air, the wind, nature, birth, death! The whole circle of life became a concept humans pretty much accepted when explained admittedly so well, through science or in the best case scenario located to faith, the face of God or the idea of religion, yet we didn’t seem to truly stop and contemplate JUST HOW AMAZING, HOW UNBELIEVABLE, HOW BIZARRE AND HOW EXTRAORDINARY WE ACTUALLY ARE! We all know somehow that even science goes as far back as possible and still it reaches a place where there is that dead-end, where one merely surrenders and speculates this form of endless potential, of a creator, of a seed which is even to scientists unknown and which we in human words, chose to give it the name “God”. With streams of thoughts along this line, I soon became quite adamant that our spirit cannot just evaporate and end eternally with the breakdown of the body and determined to find out “answers” and develop an understanding to it, which would come not filtered through the mind but through the soul, I enhanced upon an interesting journey, when the death of a most loving friend and incredible person Dr. Yiota Demetriou, led me to a magnanimous, altruistic, multi-sensory spiritual teacher, who both professional-wise and vibrational-wise is on a respectful particularly high level.
Wil’s teachings, kind soul and intelligent comprehension of the Universe revealed and brought me so close to her and importantly closer to me and Life’s great truths. You will find this great teacher discretely and gently veiled behind my words and writings, as Wil, a renounced counselor (and so many other titles which are deemed superfluous human decorative labels right now as the heart speaks), was a key source of inspiration for them as well as my journey the last decade, and I will forever be in respect and deep gratitude for her and all that she has so open-handedly and open-heartedly shared with me in such a subtle, tender, powerful and divine, grounding, wise, truly humble and intelligent way. To me she will always and forever signify a prime example and living proof of a person who truly practices what she preaches, allowing her spirit to camouflage perfectly in its efforts with human alignment; of a being who inspires not by being perfect but by how she deals with her human imperfection and accepts human flaws; of an individual who grounds and lands gracefully her butterfly soul into this human world, in perfect harmony with this cosmos as well as the eternal divinity from where we emanate.
Human words appear too flat to express our connection, accompanied always with honest and kind intentions. Soon, building a student-teacher, mother-daughter, friend-to-friend kind of relationship seemed like the most inevitable natural course of events and an effortless happening, yet today even those human categories feel rather rigid and restrictive to define the love and humble appreciation shared and reciprocated. Mentioning her on my site publicly whilst aiming to express my heart’s whispers for her is nothing but a small “human” way of articulating my recognition for who she is, for what she has given me and for what she endlessly continues to give, represent, resemble and provide to this world and to me, simply by being who she is and energizing this world with her benevolent, authentic light and bright smile.
Amongst the many things we discussed together over the years, I wish to make one of the first things that struck me then the most and I will always carry with me: it only takes one candle to light up a whole dark room whereas a little spot in light is most probably not even visible! Conclusion: light is always stronger than darkness and the slightest of light can always still be seen and always makes a difference! Thank you Wil mou, from the deepest depths of my existence, for your vibrating light but also for teaching me how to find my own light, to get in touch with it, to see it in me so I can have the tools and method to see it in others and appreciate its importance for myself and the world we are in.
You are such a wonderful teacher in guiding me to my own answers and supporting me like a fairy godmother throughout. You conveyed in ways that are mind-blowing to me until this very day, how important it is to forgive myself when I give away my control and fail to love or take care of myself as much as I ought to, how significant it is to see the God inside of me but also inside of everyone with no exceptions, how all acts are spiritual acts and are aimed at the higher good, how to love all sides of myself as well as my fellow humans…all their sentiments, actions and reactions and how vital it is to embrace all kinds of raw, ugly or beautiful, human experiences and emotional states and colors produced in our auras as a result, with a light sense of happiness and an attitude of gratitude, realizing that we are here after all to experience all of that and that on its own is magic and the essence of a human life’s journey.
True heaven is here on earth, where pain gives meaning to happiness, fear gives substance to security and safety, anger brings calmness, cold grants essence to the warm sunshine, rain introduces rainbows, bad odors give value to mesmerizing aromas, parents meet unconditional love, loving partners and true friends provide the safety ground to unmask our every side, great teachers offer and pass on information from their heart, conscious students receive with sincere appreciation and hearts cross path and exchange and interchange and love!!!!! Oh my! So much beauty, I can’t even close my eyes!!
Eternally with love, Tania, Limassol
My Reiki Master journey with Wil was one of the most profound and life-changing experiences. Her gentle guidance, wisdom, and loving energy gave me the power to transform my life into a happier, inspired, more balanced, and peaceful way of being. Thank you so much.
Christin from USA
I have seen Wil for over 10 years now. I came to Wil, at a time when my world was falling apart around me. Worry, anxiety, and low self-esteem seemed to consume my life. Wil is positive, compassionate, and easy to talk to. She helped me gain a more positive outlook on myself and the situations in my life. Wil is a great listener, very understanding, relate-able, and recommended tools relevant to my situation. I highly recommend her and counseling for anyone struggling through life’s difficult stages. She is also a reiki teacher. She has been extremely helpful to me in our sessions and listening to what my needs are with whatever I am dealing wither. I definitely would recommend Wil, and I am extremely very pleased with the services provided by Wil.
Χριστίνα από Κύπρο
Είχα την τύχη και την ευλογία να βρεθεί στο δρόμο μου η Wil, σε μια περίοδο στην ζωή μου όπου είχα χαμηλή αυτοπεποίθηση, άγχος και στρες και ένιωθα χαμένη. Η Wil με τις εξαιρετικές της ψυχολογικές μεθόδους της αλλά και το ρέικι με έκανε και είδα την ζωή με άλλο μάτι. Σίγουρα συστήνω την Wil γιατί είναι ένας εξαιρετικός σπανιος άνθρωπος, που θα ακούσει τους προβληματισμούς σου, θα αντιληφθεί τις δυσκολιες οπως και τα άγχη που βιώνεις και θα σου προσφέρει τις κατάλληλες συμβουλές για να ξεπεράσεις όλα αυτά που σε μπλοκάρουν και σε απομακρυνουν από την ευτυχια σου.Την γνωρίζω εδώ και μια δεκαετία και νιώθω ευγνωμοσύνη που είναι στην ζωή μου. Με έμαθε τι σημαινει αγάπη και σεβασμο και την ευχαριστώ από καρδιάς .
Wil has been an amazing inspiration & spiritual guide for me since 2005 where my journey began into Meditations, Past Life Regressions, Reiki Initiations & many more beautiful journeys together over the years. Her insight, intuition & guidance is unique & her open-heartedness, warmth & huge smile are contagious. She is a true blessing for all.
My experience with Wil started 11 years ago. My GP suggested I go and see her for counseling. I’ve been suffering from anxiety and very deep depression and needed real help because I didn’t want to spend my life on medications. I have to admit she was a great help, she was always there whenever I needed her day or night. Then she was helping me with Reiki treatments, which was something I never heard of at the beginning. After a couple of years, I was so interested in having the Reiki course with Wil to be able to heal myself and my family members. Started with Reiki one, Reiki 2, became a master. The more I learned about it the more it interested me. Wanted to know more about it. Have experienced beautiful things never thought in my wildest dreams that I will go through with it. In between, we were having different workshops as well to upgrade ourselves more and more. Words are never enough to thank and appreciate such a beautiful person inside out Who always welcomes you with open arms and heart. Wil I’m so grateful to get to know you, I’m grateful to have you in my life. With your help I became a completely different person, my family and all my friends always wonder how much I have changed, became so positive and happy, don’t allow anything to bother me. Started to see life with completely different eyes. Thank you is not enough. For me you are my “HERO” never ever will forget all the things you did for me.
Soraya von der Hoeh, Limassol